Cocktail dress codes for men can be a minefield, and none more so than cocktail attire. Two simple words that have left many a well dressed man scratching his head on more than one occasion. The main reason for this is the vagueness of the definition, which leaves you unsure how formal or informal you should be. You certainly don’t want to be the only man in a suit – or worse, the only one not dressed at all.
The truth is cocktail attire isn’t as scary as it seems. In fact, with the right knowledge, you may find it becomes your default dress code whether you’re sipping a whisky sour or something else. Cocktail attire is a balance; it’s more flexible than black tie but more sophisticated than smart casual or business casual. It’s the best of both worlds.
So, to make sure you walk into your next event feeling confident and stylish, we’ve covered it all for you.
What is Cocktail Attire For Men?
The truth is the definition of cocktail attire is murkier than a white Russian. But a simple way to think of it is dressing up for a big occasion but balancing fun and formality. As the name suggests, it’s not about being too serious or sober; it’s an opportunity to express yourself while still being sophisticated.
Cocktail Attire
When dressing for cocktail attire, consider:
Tailoring: You don’t want to wear lounge suits, but you still want to make sure you’re well dressed. Tailored pieces can make a big difference. Blazers that fit at the shoulders and trousers that taper at the ankle are a must. Well-fitted clothes look polished and help your overall shape.
Shirts: Your going-out shirt won’t cut it. Instead, opt for a dress shirt, a patterned shirt, or even a turtleneck for a modern twist. Experiment with colors and patterns to add some fun to your outfit and make it more festive.
Trousers: While dress trousers are always a safe bet, don’t be afraid to try something different. Chinos or tailored trousers in bold colors or interesting textures can make a statement. Just make sure your trousers match your top half and the overall look.
Shoes: Shoes are the final piece of the cocktail attire puzzle. While dress shoes are the classic choice, you can also opt for loafers or boots depending on the overall vibe of your outfit. Just make sure they’re polished and suitable for the occasion.
Accessories: Accessories can be added to your cocktail attire and personalize your look. A stylish watch, pocket square, or statement belt can make a big difference to your overall appearance and show you’ve put thought into your outfit.
Be Yourself
Cocktail attire is an opportunity to express yourself. Unlike black tie, which is more prescriptive, cocktail attire allows for creativity and self-expression. You can try different styles, colors, and textures to find what works for you. Whether you like bold and colorful or more understated and elegant, the choice is yours.
If you like to add a bit of flair don’t be afraid to throw in some unique elements into your outfit. This could be a patterned blazer, colorful socks, or even a fun tie. The key is to find the balance between being festive and sophisticated.
Confidence is Key
Ultimately, the most important part of cocktail attire is confidence. Whatever you wear, if you carry yourself with ease and poise, you’ll make an impact. Confidence can turn the most basic outfit into something amazing. So when you’re getting dressed for your next event remember how you feel in your clothes is just as important as the clothes themselves.
When To Wear Cocktail Attire?
While the glamorous cocktail parties of 1950s Manhattan may not be on our social calendars anymore, I’ve found there are still many occasions where cocktail attire is not only acceptable but encouraged. Knowing when to wear this dress code can make a big difference at many events. Here are some occasions I think cocktail attire is perfect for:
1. Wedding Receptions
In my experience, wedding receptions are the classic opportunity to wear cocktail attire. As the formal ceremony gives way to a more relaxed vibe, I find cocktail attire is the perfect balance of elegance and festivity. Whether it’s a summer garden wedding or a winter soiree, dressing up for the occasion shows respect for the couple, and I get to enjoy the party in style.
2. Christmas Parties
The holiday season is all about celebrations, and Christmas parties are no exception. I love attending these get-togethers, and cocktail attire adds to the festive spirit. I go for rich colors, luxurious fabrics, and festive accessories to get into the season and look sharp. It’s a great way to be festive and stylish at the same time.
3. Business Receptions
In business settings I’ve found business receptions are often cocktail attire. These events are perfect for networking and making connections while presenting yourself in a polished way. A well-fitted blazer with tailored trousers will make you look professional without sacrificing style.
4. Opening Events and Galas
Art gallery openings, charity galas, and other formal events are the perfect opportunity for me to wear cocktail attire. I enjoy these get-togethers as they often attract a stylish crowd, and dressing up allows me to fit in while standing out. I like to go for sophisticated pieces that match the event, and I don’t mind adding a bit of personal flair to my outfit.
5. Networking Events
Networking is all about making connections, and I’ve found my attire can play a big part in how I’m perceived. Cocktail attire allows me to present myself as approachable yet professional. A smart blazer with a stylish shirt and well-fitted trousers make me feel confident as I talk to others in my industry.
6. Notable Anniversaries, Birthdays, and Other Celebrations
Milestone anniversaries, big birthdays, and other special occasions are perfect for wearing cocktail attire. These events require a festive atmosphere, and I think dressing up can add to the celebration, whether it’s a surprise party or a family gathering. Showing up stylish adds to the occasion.
7. No Excuse Needed
Of course, I’ve learned you don’t really need an occasion to wear cocktail attire, just as you don’t need an excuse to have a cocktail. If I feel like going out one evening looking and feeling my best, I’ll go ahead and grab that velvet jacket or tailored blazer. Whether I’m heading to a trendy bar, dinner with friends, or just want to dress up, my everyday style cocktail attire is a great option.
Cocktail Attire Key Pieces For Men
Like all good outfits, the perfect cocktail attire is made up of several key pieces. By sticking to these basics, you can’t go wrong when dressing for your next event. Here are the essential components to create a stylish cocktail look:
The Suit
If you want to play it safe for cocktail attire, a dark suit is your best bet. But avoid plain grey or boring navy suits – essentially anything that could be mistaken for office wear. Go for bolder or pastel colors to make a statement.
Colors
Bolder Blues: A blue suit can be a nice twist on cocktail attire. Cobalt or royal blue is attention-grabbing and not too flashy. I find these colors work well for evening events and look sophisticated and lively.
Jewel Tones: Jewel tones like deep green, rich burgundy, or even emerald can add a bit of luxury to your outfit. These colors stand out and work with most skin tones, so they are a great option for any occasion.
Pastel Colours: For spring and summer events, pastel colors are a great option. Light blue, pink, or lavender can look fresh and approachable. Just make sure the fabric is suitable for the season—lighter materials like linen or cotton blends are good for warmer weather.
Patterns and Prints
If you don’t want to venture too far from the safety of neutrals, try adding some print to your suit. Patterns can add visual interest and personality to your outfit without being overwhelming. Here are a few options:
Windowpane Checks: This classic pattern has a grid design that adds some sophistication to your suit. A windowpane check in a subtle color can be a great way to stand out while looking sharp.
Pinstripes: A pinstripe suit can look authoritative and elegant. Go for a suit with thin, subtle stripes in a dark color for a sleek look. I find pinstripes can elongate the body, so they are a great option for most body types.
Houndstooth: This bold pattern can make a statement while still being sophisticated. A houndstooth suit in a muted color palette can be an excellent option for cocktail events and show off your individual style without being too loud.
Fit and Tailoring
Whatever color or pattern you choose, the fit of the suit is key. A well-tailored suit can make all the difference in how you look. Make sure the shoulders fit, the sleeves are the right length, and the trousers are tailored to your body. I always recommend getting tailored if needed; it’s worth it for the polished look.
The Jacket
Stepping away from a traditional suit gives you the freedom to get creative with your jacket. This is your chance to make a statement and show off your personality. As long as your trousers are clean and sharp, you can get a bit more daring on top and let your outfit stand out.
Colors
Rich Colours: Go bold and rich. Deep colors like royal blue, emerald green, or burgundy can add some sophistication and panache. I find a rich-coloured jacket can be the focal point of your outfit and draw attention and admiration.
Textured Fabrics: Try textured fabrics like velvet or corduroy. These add depth to your outfit and feel luxurious. A velvet jacket can be particularly great for evening events and look elegant and charming.
Quirky Detailing: Don’t be afraid to get quirky with the detailing. Look for lapels made from contrasting cloth, unusual buttons, or interesting stitching. These small details can add personality to your outfit and make it stand out.
Style Options
You don’t have to have a traditional dinner jacket, but there’s no harm in having one if it fits the occasion. A well-fitted dinner jacket can elevate your cocktail attire and add a classic touch. But if you want a more relaxed vibe, go for blazers or sports coats that give you more styling options.
Shirt Options
To complete your look, team your jacket with a formal button-down shirt. Go for a shirt with a pointed or stand collar to look sharp. White shirts are always a safe option, but don’t be afraid to try patterned or colored shirts that match your jacket. A subtle pattern can add some visual interest without clashing with the boldness of your jacket.
The Trousers
While your jacket is making a statement, your trousers should be more low-key. The key is to choose dress trousers with minimal detailing that doesn’t compete with your jacket. This balance will keep your overall look polished and sophisticated.
Classic Dress Trousers
Minimal Detailing: Go for dress trousers with clean lines and a classic shape. Solid colors with no excess embellishments or patterns work best. I find a well-tailored pair of trousers in a dark color can be a great base for your outfit and let the jacket be the star.
Pleats and Relaxed Fits: If you want to look modern and fresh go for trousers with pleats or a relaxed/cropped leg. Pleated trousers can add some sophistication and comfort, and a relaxed fit can add a contemporary touch. Cropped trousers can show off your shoes and add a stylish twist to your outfit.
Chinos as an Option
Chinos aren’t entirely out of the question for cocktail attire, especially if you want to go for a mix of formal and casual. But you have to choose a neutral color like grey or navy. These colours can go with many jackets and shirts, so it’s a good option for your outfit.
Avoiding Common Mistakes
When choosing your trousers, be careful of certain colors, especially beige, if you’re going for a double-breasted jacket. The last thing you want to do is to look like Alan Partridge when you arrive at the party, which can happen if your outfit doesn’t make sense. Instead, go for darker, more sophisticated colors that will enhance your overall look.
The Shirt
For cocktail attire, it’s time to move away from the traditional dress shirt or your standard OCBD (Oxford Cloth Button-Down). Go for a smart shirt with a pointed or stand collar. These styles are the go-to for this dress code. If you want a more modern twist, a cutaway collar is also okay, especially if you’re going to wear a tie with it.
Embracing Personality
Cocktail attire is all about the balance of elegance and personality, so don’t be afraid to express yourself through your shirt choice. This is your chance to add some flair to your outfit. Here are some ideas:
Patterned Shirts: A polka-dot shirt can be a great choice when paired with a black jacket. The pattern adds some fun while still being sophisticated. I find polka dots can be both classic and modern, so it’s a good option for many occasions.
Bold Colours and Prints: If you’re feeling bold, go for a loud shirt with a 70s-style collar in bright colors. This retro-modern look is a great conversation starter and perfect for events that are more relaxed or festive. Just make sure the rest of your outfit balances out the boldness of the shirt so that you don’t overdo it.
Textured Fabrics: Don’t forget about the fabric. A shirt made from textured materials like linen or a subtle jacquard can add some depth to your outfit. These fabrics look great and feel comfortable, so you can enjoy the event without feeling restricted.
The Top
Unlike most formal dress codes, a shirt is not required for cocktail attire, so you have more flexibility in your top choice. This means you can go for stylish alternatives that still look sophisticated for a cocktail event. Here are some options:
Roll Neck Sweater
A roll-neck can be a great choice, especially during the colder months. It’s warm and polished. But make sure it’s fine gauge and elegant – this is not the time for a chunky fisherman jumper. A slim-fit roll neck in a solid color can look sophisticated when worn with a tailored blazer. I find charcoal, navy, or deep green work well; it’s a refined look that goes with the overall cocktail attire.
T-Shirt
A high-quality T-shirt isn’t completely off the table either, as long as you style it well. This means wearing it under your jacket and tucking it in at the waist. A fitted T-shirt can add a modern twist to your cocktail outfit and make it feel fresh and current.
To look polished, consider using a military tuck to eliminate visible fabric bunching at the front. This involves tucking the shirt in and folding the fabric at the sides to create a clean line. It’s a simple but effective way to make your T-shirt look intentional, not casual.
Color and Fabric Choices
In either case, whether you go for a roll neck or T-shirt, stick to plain colors. Neutral colors like black, white, grey, or muted tones are best as they keep the overall look sophisticated and let your jacket be the hero. Avoid loud patterns or graphics as they will detract from the cocktail attire.
The Shoes
When it comes to cocktail attire the right shoes can make or break your look. Monk straps, or loafers, are the shoes of choice for this dress code. They offer both sophistication and style. If you go for leather shoes, make sure they are clean and well-shined – this should go without saying any dress code, but it’s especially important when you want to look polished.
Shoe Options
Monk Straps: Monk strap shoes are a great option for cocktail attire. The buckle adds a bit of flair while still looking formal. I find a sleek pair of leather monk straps can go with many outfits so they’re a versatile option for different occasions.
Loafers: Loafers are another good option, comfortable without sacrificing style. They can be dressed up or down depending on the material and finish. Suede loafers can look relaxed yet sophisticated, while polished leather loafers look more traditional.
Oxfords and Chelsea Boots: If you wear Oxfords because they match your suit or if you’re going for a modern look with Chelsea boots you’ll be in good company. Both are fine for cocktail attire as long as they’re in good condition and polished.
Minimalist Sneakers: Surprisingly, a clean pair of minimalist sneakers can also work within the cocktail attire framework, especially if you’re going for a more modern look. Go for clean, simple designs in neutral colors that won’t clash with the rest of your outfit. I find minimalist sneakers can add a fresh twist to cocktail attire and make it feel more approachable and current.
What to Avoid?
While there’s some flexibility with shoe choices, it’s generally best to avoid overtly casual styles. This means desert boots, which can look too relaxed, and brogues, which won’t fit with the polished look you’re going for with cocktail attire. You want to strike a balance between comfort and sophistication and have your shoes complement your overall outfit.
The Subtlety of Shoes
All that said, if you’re doing cocktail attire correctly, it’s one of the few dress codes where your shoes won’t be the first thing people notice. This means you have some wiggle room with your shoe choice. As long as your shoes are clean and well-maintained, they can blend in with your overall look without drawing attention to themselves.
The Accessories
When it comes to cocktail attire this is where you can peacock a bit. Accessorizing for a cocktail dress code allows you to get more creative than you would on other formal occasions. This is your chance to express yourself and your style through thoughtful details that enhance your overall appearance.
Must Haves
Pocket Square: A pocket square is a classic accessory that can add a splash of color or pattern to your outfit. It’s a simple but effective way to level up your look. I recommend choosing a pocket square that matches your jacket or shirt, whether it’s a bold print or a subtle texture. Fold it neatly into your blazer’s breast pocket, and you’ll look polished.
Statement Cufflinks: Cufflinks are another way to show off your style. Go for unique designs that reflect your personality – whether it’s classic silver or gold or something more playful like enamel or themed cufflinks. They can be a conversation starter and add a touch of polish to your overall look.
Quality Watch: A quality watch is not just a practical accessory. It’s also a statement piece. Choose a watch that matches your outfit – whether it’s a sleek dress watch with a leather strap or a modern watch with a metal band.
Options
While the above are the must-haves, don’t be afraid to get creative.
Neck Scarves and Cravats: If you’ve always wanted to try a neck scarf or a cravat instead of a traditional tie, then cocktail attire is the time to do so. These accessories can add a bit of whimsy and personality to your look. A silk scarf in a bold color or pattern can be a stylish focal point, while a cravat can add a vintage touch to your overall look.
No Neckwear: On the other end of the scale, you can choose to wear no neckwear at all. Ties are not required in cocktail attire, so if you prefer a more laid-back look, then leave the tie at home. This can look casual yet sophisticated, especially when paired with a well-fitted shirt or a roll neck.
Finishing Touches
When accessorizing, you need to balance. You want to express yourself, but don’t over-accessorise. Choose a few key pieces that work together and enhance your overall look without overwhelming it.
